Back in the UK for a couple of days, which means I have time to read the tabloids that are pressed in my hands every time I venture near a tube station.
Kate Winslet was on the front page last night. “Nothing could distract her from her new boyfriend, Burberry model Louis Dowler,” read the caption.
You may remember a few months ago I mentioned her mistakes as she broke up with then-hubby Sam Mendes after he revealed that being faithful to just one sexual partner was not his idea of
a good life. My point was that this illustrated one of our 6 Do’s to be Married and Happy–
look at the person you’re with, not who you WISH you were with. If she had, she could have avoided a lot of heartbreak.
Will she look this time? Since she’s with a model and their raison d’etre (that’s reason for being for
you non-Francophiles) is to look good, what are the chances he’ll be real with her about his
intentions? Would she be willing to listen?
If you’ve fallen into some of the same traps, here’s a tool. You can always ask yourself “What do I know
that I’m denying I know or pretending not to know here?” Of course then you have to be willing to
recognize the answer when the universe sends it to you. It can avoid a lot of heartbreak and trauma and
drama if it allows you to avoid a relationship which wouldn’t work–to say nothing of blocking the possibility of
one that works actually turning up for you. But then, many people aren’t willing to look at the future in
that way, they’d rather find out the slow, dramatic, painful way. It’s just a choice! What do you choose?