How often have you watched someone doing something and been absolutely convinced that
they were doing it wrong, that if they did it as you knew it should be done, it would be so much better?
Most parents are guilty of this, and so are most partners.
Did you know that this is you being intensely superior and judgmental? (I can say this cause
I’ve certainly done it too!)
Think about it–who are you to have the audacity to think you know better than the person
themselves what they should do? Did it ever occur to you that this is profoundly dis-empowering of the person?
People choose what they choose cause they can choose it. Reasons and justifications are just stories we tell ourselves.
Where have you been superior and judgmental today? Are you willing to give it up? What would it take?
The gift you would be giving the person you care about will be allowance–an attitude free of judgment where they are cared for just as they are, no matter what they choose. It’s
an ultimate gift that can create freedom for them!
What is more caring–thinking you know better than someone (even a teenager) what they
should do with their life, or truly deeply acknowledging they are in charge of their lives and
imminently capable to make their own choices?
Warning: a change in this could change all your relationships! Do you dare?