“Aren’t you going to include forgiveness?” some of my old friends asked me when I showed them the proof copy of the book.
They didn’t ask me why when I said no.
So you get to hear why even if they didn’t think to ask the question.
What is forgiveness, anyway? Wouldn’t you describe it as letting go of something that someone has one to you that you consider some kind of wrong? The dictionary says it’s to stop feeling angry or resentful for an offense, flaw or mistake. My question is, can anything be an offense, flaw or mistake without your judging it to be so? Judgment is always a limitation. If you go beyond judgment and consider everything just an interesting point of view, is there any requirement for forgiveness? I can’t think of one. I’d be happy to hear from you if you have a different point of view.
And then there’s the component of anger. Why not just let go of it? Does it ever get you anywhere? It’s actually what we call a distracter implant, which means it’s something you allowed to be imposed on you that keeps you from seeing you. Distracter implants are like a dog chasing its tail–it won’t ever catch it! But it will go in energetic circles for a while–kind of like a rocking chair, lots of motion but no progress.
So if we were to recognize that anger, resentment, and judgment get us nowhere, would we need forgiveness? I can’t think of a reason we would.
Would it be fair to say that by releasing anger and resentment and giving up judgment, we go far beyond forgiveness in creating a different possibility on the planet?
So now you know why I don’t speak about forgiveness in my book. I do mention as one of the 6 Don’ts to Create a Relationships That’s Easy and Fun: Don’t Criticize, Argue, or Say They’re Wrong. If you didn’t, wouldn’t that go a long way to erasing any places that forgiveness was required?
What do you know? I’d love to hear from you.