Here’s a joke one of my friends put on facebook: Q: What’s that insensitive bit at the end of a penis called? A: The man!
Ouch! For how many women does this reflect their true point of view about men? Yet don’t these very same women, whenever they’re single, also desire to “have” a man?
No wonder men can feel there’s no winning for losing!
How do you know if you’re one of the women who overtly or covertly hates men? It’s quite easy: ask a question. Since the person we lie to most is ourselves, beware of lying to yourself on this one. The answer might not be what you expect, but the best way out of your problems in this area of marriage and relationships is to be brutally honest with yourself. Are you willing? You’ll be more likely to uncover your true feelings if you say, “Truth!” before asking the question, “Do I really like men?” Whichever feels lighter to you, yes or no, is the true answer, provided you’re willing to hear it.
What do you do if the answer is no? It can be changed. The first step is to make a list. Title it “the problem with men is…” and list everything you don’t like about men. It could get ugly! And, looking at your true beliefs is the first step in changing it. Do you dare? Do you dare have the healthy relationship you SAY you’re looking for?
Once you’ve made the list, I have another task for you to do to change your relationships. Stay tuned!
As always I’d love to hear your comments and questions!