The best test of your relationship as well as the best predictor of its survivability is whether it’s fun now! This is not a theoretical point of view. It’s a practical tool you can use. Is your relationship fun now? Are you enjoying being with the person you’re with? If not why are you bothering?
My 20 year old son recently commented that his several year long relationship with his high school girl friend was probably ending. Of course we asked why.
“We just didn’t have that much fun being together” when they saw each other at Christmas.
Yes! No trauma, no drama, just an awareness that this was not what he was interested in having in his life!